Thursday, 10 July 2014

Nurse Mum

I’m relieved to report that Daughter is progressing as well as can be expected, considering the major surgery that she had. The specialist Endometriosis Unit at London’s UCH is, as I said in an earlier post, excellent. 

But to more mundane matters… how I coped as Nurse Mum for two whole weeks!

For the first two nights after the operation I stayed at the Premier Inn, within walking distance of the hospital. On the third night I made my way to Daughter’s house to prepare for her homecoming. It was a long, bag-laden walk to the station and an even longer walk along the platform looking for the second-class carriages. It took me five carriages to realize that the word ‘First’ referred to First Direct and not First Class.

My biggest test as Nurse Mum came when they discharged Daughter with a catheter fitted to ‘rest the traumatised bladder’. On her first day home she couldn’t even bend to reach the drainage tap, never mind tackle the night bag! Have you any idea how heavy a bag of wee can be? The post-hysterectomy inability to lift meant that the night bag was a ball and chain around her leg. I won’t go into the fear and panic when, on Sunday morning, the bag became blocked, I will merely thank the efficiency of the district nurse who arrived in time to save us a rush to A&E.

While I was staying at Daughter’s I was ‘sleeping’ on a blow-up bed in her living room. Strange how you can sleep anywhere when you’re exhausted! On the eighth night of blow-up-bed-habitation, Daughter’s cat brought me a present… a shrew… a live shrew. She placed it lovingly beside my head, which was mere inches from the floor. Needless to say my head didn’t stay there for long! I rescued the poor little shrew, set it free in the garden and spent the rest of the night on the settee. For my last two nights as Nurse Mum I checked into a nearby hotel. That, as it turned out, was a good plan because it gave Daughter a chance to see if she was ready to manage on her own.


I’m now back home and catching up on a little paper work and a lot of sleep. I hope to resume normal service as soon as possible, especially as I have a major book launch to attend next week for my Children’s Book of Richard III. Apparently I have to make a speech. I dare say I’ll blog about it and I’m quite sure there will be photos to post up so you can kind of join in too.

Thank you to everyone who sent get well wishes to my daughter. We both really appreciate all the messages.

21 comments:

  1. I hope someone is making a Big Fuss of you now you're home. After all your efforts, you've earned it.

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    1. Thanks. He's doing his best... when I can tear him away from the garden!!

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  2. Your sure did your duty as a nurse. What an ordeal!!

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    1. Thanks. It certainly was an experience.

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  3. Wishing your daughter a speedy and full recovery. I'm sure she appreciates Mum's help.

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    1. Thank you and yes, she was very appreciative :-)

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  4. Glad to hear your daughter is doing better - and good luck with the book launch.

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    1. Thanks, there's nothing like having to make a speech to concentrate the mind!

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  5. Hi Ros .. oh bags of pee - had a few experiences of those .. but shrews we avoided ... but had a baby squirrel running all over the Nursing Centre - but that's irrelevant in the scheme of things ... I'm so pleased your daughter is coping and is home - and now I hope healing slowly and surely. Gosh the blockage incident could have been nasty - great the nurse turned up in time ...

    It does sound as though it's been one of those times - but thankfully one which you've both pulled through - and obviously she'd have been so grateful for you there ...

    Wishing you both all the best .. and next week speeches, talks, book launches .. and that's wonderful you'll be doing the rounds of schools giving talks ... Fantastic news ... cheers Hilary

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    1. Thanks Hilary. 'One of those times' sums it up perfectly.

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  6. wow - you did a lot and amidst a shrew. Glad your daughter is doing well and you could write a funny tale of your nurse adventures. (stick to writing for a career?) I definitely believe all nurses deserve a raise. Take care and your book launch, speeches, etc. will go great.

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    1. Now let me see, writing or nursing... No brainer! I'll stick to being a writer ;-)

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  7. Well done Ros - I do hope your daughter takes all the hospital's advice and recovers smoothly. It's amazing how much wee one person can produce, isn't it?
    Sleeping on an airbed is all right as long as the ambient temperature is ok - I tried it one winter in UK and froze because the air in the bed was the same as the room. I had to remake my bed with half the duvet underneath me!
    I tried the other day to buy your Richard !!! book but the site wouldn't let me enter my foreign postcode. I want to send it direct to my grandsons in England but my billing address is in Tenerife.Was that a temporary hitch? How can I get round it?

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    1. I'm so sorry you've had a problem with the website. I thought we'd ironed all the problems out. If it was over a week ago then please try again as we made some major changes to it last Friday. If the website continues to be a problem I'll work out a different system.

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    2. Thanks - I'll try again. Fingers crossed!

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  8. Might I ask? What is a shrew?
    Glad everything is almost back to normal.

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    1. A shrew is a small mouse-like animal with a long snout! Sweet but not when it's in my bed!

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  9. I know this wasn't meant to be funny at all, Ros, but you always make me laugh. I love the shrew story…bless the cat…not! That said, I'm very glad to hear your daughter is doing better now. What an ordeal for all of you! It'll be such a relief when she's totally well again. As for you, you're a champion mum!! You get my award for sure. Looking forward to hearing about the launch, and your book is going to be on my list of birthday gifts for small family members for some time…and maybe big ones too! It looks fascinating!

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    1. Thanks Val, if you have any problems ordering the book then please let me know. I thought we had the website working properly but Lizy has had a problem with overseas addresses.

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  10. I'd missed that your daughter needed surgery (bit chaotic here as well). Glad she is doing well and that nurse mom is home and free of the shrews! Sleep well :)

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  11. What a brilliant mum you are! Glad it seems to be having a happy ending.

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